Have you ever secretly been upset with someone that knows you well when they didn't come through for you on something? Did you happen to communicate your need?
A hard but necessary lesson I've had to learn is that other people, even those people in your life that know you well, do not know what you need unless you communicate the need. I've been under this assumption that my family and friends who know me very well, know what I need from them and when I need it. Something as simple as a hug or some encouragement seems so easy to expect from others when we're in need of it. However, no one is you. Other people don't know what you're feeling and thinking unless you communicate that with them. I think a lot of us make this assumption that those around us know what we need and are deciding to withhold it from us which causes us to become upset, frustrated or feel like they don't care. In reality, they may not have known what you needed because you didn't communicate with them, it wasn't to spite you or withhold from you something you wanted or needed. Communicating our needs to those that we need love, encouragement, time, advice, etc. from is very important in managing our feelings and taking care of our needs. God created us to live in and need the community of those around us, but we cannot assume or expect others to know when and what we need unless we ask. Make it a goal to communicate with your family and friends what you are needing from them and see if that doesn't help you and improve your relationship with them.
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